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kyestel
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« Thread Started on Feb 15, 2006, 12:52pm »

Place in here anything that deals with self-defense and the means of enlightening yourself

The information placed in here must be professional data that wasn't made up on the whim.

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Re: Protection
« Reply #1 on Feb 15, 2006, 12:53pm »

De-Escalation

Have you ever had an encounter with someone that escalated into a yelling match? That started calmly, and then turned angry, volatile, or downright ugly? Most of us have. Maybe you felt the other person wasn’t listening to you, so you raised your voice to get your point across. He raised his, and before you knew it, things got out of hand. You began reacting to his anger and his emotion to the exclusion of everything else.
Anytime you react, you allow the other person to dictate the momentum and outcome of the exchange; when you act, however, it’s you who takes control. And if you want to protect yourself in a volatile confrontation, taking control is a must. It’s what the art of de-escalation is all about. De-escalation truly is an art form. On a daily basis, it can be used to defuse arguments and confrontations, to calm another person and “talk him down.” In more threatening circumstances, it can prevent an actual physical assault.

1. Don’t antagonize – don’t argue, threaten, or raise your voice. Don’t use obscenities or give him ultimatums on the other hand, don’t ignore him, either.
2. Listen – when faced with someone who’s emotional or out of control, listening is imperative. Try to listen to what he/she is saying. Keep your comments brief and to the point. Be firm, yet sincere, and don’t patronize them.
3. Look for warning signs – danger signs like sweating, rapid blinking, reddening of the face, arm waving, or looking “through you”. Listen for protracted silences, fumbling for words, or increasing in the speed or volume of their voice.
4. Show no fear – whatever you may be feeling inside, it’s what you show on the outside that counts, so hold your ground. Don’t step back or look away. Take a couple of deep breathes then speak slowly and evenly, keeping your voice calm and low. Maintain eye contact without staring.
5. communicate clearly – make it clear what you do or do not want
6. Remain objective – de-escalation is never about backing down, giving up, or surrendering control. You maintain control, manipulating the situation to your advantage. Ego and pride can set off a power struggle for dominance. Your aim is not dominate the other person or win the argument, but to turn down the heat and stop verbal confrontations from boiling into physical ones.
7. Position yourself – despite your calming words, the other person may actually get physical. Be prepared, your stance should be relaxed yet alert. Keep your feet shoulder width apart to give you stability. Stay to the left or right, gives you the advantage to run or fight.
8. Remember your other options – de-escalation demands patience and perservence; it takes time. Don’t be afraid to try another approach; don’t lose power in the process.

Keep in mind; it takes two people to have an argument. Once you refuse to participate, the other person is left with nothing to fuel their fire.

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